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The following statements are feelings and attitudes that people frequently experience after a love relationship has ended. Read each statement. Decide how frequently the statement applies to your present feelings and attitudes. Mark your response on your answer sheet. Do not leave any statements blank. If the statement is not appropriate for you in your present situation, answer the way you feel you might if that statement were appropriate.

1. I am comfortable telling people my love-partner (spouse) has died.
2. I am physically and emotionally exhausted from morning until night.
3. I am constantly thinking of my former love partner.
4. I feel rejected by many of the friends I had when I was in the love relationship.
5. I become upset when I think about my former love partner.
6. I like being the person I am.
7. I feel like crying because I feel so sad.
8. I can calmly talk to God about being alone.
9. There are many things about my personaIity I would like to change.
10. It is easy for me to accept my becoming a single person.
11. I feel depressed.
12. I feel emotionally separated from my former love partner.
13. People would not like me if they got to know me.
14. I feel comfortable visiting my former love-partner's gravesite.
15. I feel like I am an attractive person.
16. I feel as though I am in a daze and the world doesn't seem real.
17. I find myself doing things just because my former love-partner would have liked my doing those things.
18. I feel lonely.
19. There are many things about my body I would like to change.
20. I have many plans and goals for the future.
21. I feel I don't have much sex appeal.
22. I am relating and interacting in many new ways with people since my partner's death.
23. Joining a singles' group would make me feel I was a loser like them.
24. It is easy for me to organize my daily routine of living.
25. I find myself talking about my former love-partner all the time.
26. Because my love-partner is dead, I must not enjoy life.
27. I feel like unloading my feelings of anger and hurt upon my former love partner.
28. I feel comfortable being with people.
29. I have trouble concentrating.
30. I think of my former love partner as related to me rather than as a separate person.
31. I feel like an okay person.
32. I wish my former love-partner could feel the emotional pain I'm feeling.
33. I have close friends who know and understand me.
34. I am unable to control my emotions.
35. I feel capable of building a deep and meaningful love relationship.
36. I have trouble sleeping.
37. I easily become angry at my former love partner.
38. I am afraid to trust people who might become love partners.
39. Because my love-partner died, I feel I ant being punished.
40. I either have no appetite or eat continuously which is unusual for me.
41. I don't want to accept that my love-partner has died.
42. I force myself to eat even though I'm not hungry.
43. I've decided to join the living; my dead love•partner can no longer satisfy my needs.
44. I feel very frightened inside.
45. It is important that my family, friends, and associates share my feelings about my former love-partner.
46. I feel uncomfortable even thinking about dating.
47. I feel capable of living the kind of life I would like to live.
48. I have noticed my body weight is changing a great deal.
49. I often feel that if I had prayed harder or done things right, my love-partner wouldn't have died.
50. My abdomen feels empty and hollow.
51. I have feelings of romantic love for my deceased love-partner.
52. I can make the decisions I need to because I know and trust my feelings.
53. I sometimes wish my dead partner was alive and I were dead so that he/she could know what it is like to hurt this way.
54. I avoid people even though I want and need friends.
55. I have really made a mess of my life.
56. I sigh a lot.
57. I believe I have accepted the death of my spouse.
58. I perform my daily activities in a mechanical and unfeeling manner.
59. I become upset when I think of my dead spouse having a peace I cannot share.
60. I feel capable of facing and dealing with my problems.
61. I blame my former love-partner for dying on me.
62. I am afraid of becoming sexually involved with another person.
63. I feel adequate as a fe/male love partner.
64. I often think about the day I will be able to join my dead partner.
65. I feel detached and removed from activities around me as though I were watching them on a movie screen.
66. I often imagine having sex with my former love-partner.
67. Life is somehow passing me by.
68. I feel comfortable going by myself to a public place such as a movie.
69. It is good to feel alive again after having felt numb and emotionally dead.
70. I feel I know and understand myself.
71. I feel emotionally committed to my former love partner.
72. I want to be with people but I feel emotionally distant from them.
73. I am the type of person I would like to have for a friend.
74. I am afraid of becoming emotionally close to another love partner.
75. Even on the days when I am feeling good, I may suddenly become sad and start crying.
76. I can't believe my partner has died.
77. I become upset when I think my dead partner can no longer share my feelings or my life.
78. I have a normal amount of self-confidence.
79. People seem to enjoy being with me.
80. I feel I can never again give myself permission to be in love.
81. I wake up in the morning feeling there is no good reason to get out of bed.
82. I find myself daydreaming about all the good times I had with my love partner.
83. People want to have a love relationship with me because I feel like a lovable person.
84. If it were possible, I'd get satisfaction out of letting my dead partner know how much I'm hurting.
85. I feel comfortable going to social events even though I am single.
86. I feel guilty about my being alive when my love-partner is dead.
87. I feel emotionally insecure.
88. I feel uncomfortable even thinking about having a sexual relationship.
89. I feel emotionally weak and helpless.
90. I think about ending my life with suicide.
91. I no longer feel the need to understand why my partner died.
92. I feel comfortable that my friends know my partner died.
93. I am angry at my former partner because I am left alone.
94. I feel like I am going crazy.
95. I am unable to perform sexually.
96. I feel as though I am the only single person in a couples-only society.
97. I feel like a single person rather than a married person.
98. I feel my friends look at me as unstable now that I'm single.
99. I daydream about being with and talking to my former love partner.
100. I need to improve my feelings of self-worth about being a wo/man.

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